I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been drawn to the ocean to ponder “why”. Being an empathic person and emotionally mature person, I’m always trying to put myself in other’s shoes to consider their situation or what they might be thinking. I’m always understanding of somebody else’s feelings and usually over the importance of mine. I can sit and think “what did I say or do?”, but I honestly don’t think I’m doing anything classicly wrong.
But, I think my biggest pet peeve is being ignored. When you think you connect, kiss, have a good time, and get positive reinforcement, then silence. I don’t even want to use the common slang of “ghosting” because I feel like that diminishes the true meaning. It’s no wonder the word “ignore” relates to “ignorance”. Or is it lack of bravery, maturity, or just stupidity? When I do get ignored it actually makes me more frustrated and I start drawing assumptions about the other person that may or may not be true. Because I’m trying to rationalize in my head what could be the reason in an effort to understand human behavior.
Even guys I assume to know better, still do it. Is it because I’m not expressing my expectations of what it means when we hang out, have sex, or perhaps falsely believe we “connect”? I suppose a woman’s idea of connection is different from a man’s- one of emotional vs physical connection. Although, I’m no dummy to know the difference although we are wired differently.
I honestly have no idea if girls do the same thing, I can only speak from my experience, but it’s amazing how often I get ignored and don’t’ deserve it. And I think it comes from unexpressed intentions or expectations early on. I know I’m not being as selective as I should be, but that doesn’t mean you have to still ignore me and that I can’t handle the “truth”. Fess up…it’s fine. Trust me, I can handle it.
Just PLEASE, don’t ignore me. It hurts.
